The therapist is right, though. Until this guy gets his act together about blaming his mom, he will NEVER be able to have a good relationship with women. There is a saying that men treat their wives like they treated their moms. It all depends on whose POV you are telling the story. Amazing how Candorville DOES depict real life in a humorous way! What is interesting is that the patient is in denial. Just like in real life! I have noticed, BTW, that all the people I've met in my 6 decades of life who NEEDED psychological therapy DO NOT get it. The ones who go for help have the greatest chance of learning to live a productive and happy life. Bravo to Bell for taking on this very delicate subject.
Couldn't have said it better myself, ChayaFradle. "This guy" may be on a road to a breakthrough if he doesn't reject Dr. Noodle's idea about exploring his relationship with his mother (or even both his parents). Case-in-point: as I was typing this reply I got an unexpected visit from an ex-boyfriend who won't let ME go. Perhaps if his parents instilled confidence in him he would find happiness in himself and not need me to fill that void. Sadly, the ex doesn't "believe" in therapy. Good thing "this guy" does.
To WWMD: I, too, have an ex who didn't believe in therapy and-get this- not only won't let me go, but also still blames me for everything from the rain coming at the wrong time to his losing his socks, so to speak. I've moved on in the 30 years we've been apart. He's still emotionally in the same place. Still, no therapy for him. What helped me immensely is that I had therapy, but the best kind was when I told the therapist what was my goal. Otherwise, it can become an exercise in repeating of negative experiences without actually exploring feelings and moving away from the hurtful impact the experiences had. I hope Candorville has MANY more of Dr. Noodle's positive interactions. I remember that sometimes, it was Dr. Noodle who needed a therapist. I have an idea…oh, I'm going to e mail Bell and tell him privately. You know, he gets ideas from all sorts of people, events, and other animals. Hahaha. I think all cartoonists and humorists on TV do.
I know how much my own marriage has been affected by what I saw of my parents during my childhood.
Treating my husband like he's the most wonderful man in the world = seeing my dad treat my mother that way.
Although my mother was not the most wonderful man in the world, but you get the idea.
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